I feel like you saw right into my mind and wrote it down more beautifully than I could have ever articulated myself. Currently navigating horrendous sleep with my 5 month old and can’t seem to escape the constant barrage of ‘you must sleep train, she isn’t sleeping because you haven’t taught her to’ etc etc. This made me feel seen and reassured that in the end I am just parenting a brand new human my way and it’s the right way for us. Thank you.
Natalie, so sorry - I realise I never replied to this. Thank you for your comment, though of course I wish you weren't battling such a horrendous sleep situation. You are definitely doing what's right for you (you know when you are). It's hard to tune out the critical voices but trust your instincts. The sleep situation will get better. It will. That's a biological fact. That's what keeps me hopeful, at least. Still quite knackered here but doing the best I can, and that's all I - we – can aim for. Sending love and solidarity and fingers crossed some sleep soon. x
Beautifully written, Amy. And very reassuring -- my 3 month old is sprawled across me asleep this very second because she won't lie anywhere else! I too am well acquainted with 'the rod'...how anyone thinks a brand-new little human will miraculously learn to stop crying without being soothed is ridiculous! And these moments where we are the only source of comfort to them are so finite...I try to remind myself that as often as possible.
Ah, glad this was reassuring for you. You're not alone. Three months is still so very young too. No wonder they want to be close. You are comfort and safety all in one. I remember when my son was barely a month and only wanted to sleep curled up on my chest, fitting perfectly. I thought, is this going to be forever? And then, within another month - probably one or two weeks actually – he was too big and never slept exactly like that again. They are finite indeed. It really can change quickly. Sending you good sleep vibes in the meantime X
Oh my goodness - I could have written this (although probably not as eloquently). Our baby girl’s first front teeth emerged yesterday and she likes to play in the cot, but sleeping on or next to me. I hope the teething passes and someone makes you some non judgemental coffee xxx
Glad it arrived at the right time! It's so hard when they only want to sleep on you/next to you. Of course, it's also lovely too, when they submit to sleep, when you can feel the full weight of them, their little breath on you... It's hard but there's also something deeply precious about it. Here's hoping you get some decent sleep yourself though xx
I feel like you saw right into my mind and wrote it down more beautifully than I could have ever articulated myself. Currently navigating horrendous sleep with my 5 month old and can’t seem to escape the constant barrage of ‘you must sleep train, she isn’t sleeping because you haven’t taught her to’ etc etc. This made me feel seen and reassured that in the end I am just parenting a brand new human my way and it’s the right way for us. Thank you.
Natalie, so sorry - I realise I never replied to this. Thank you for your comment, though of course I wish you weren't battling such a horrendous sleep situation. You are definitely doing what's right for you (you know when you are). It's hard to tune out the critical voices but trust your instincts. The sleep situation will get better. It will. That's a biological fact. That's what keeps me hopeful, at least. Still quite knackered here but doing the best I can, and that's all I - we – can aim for. Sending love and solidarity and fingers crossed some sleep soon. x
Beautifully written, Amy. And very reassuring -- my 3 month old is sprawled across me asleep this very second because she won't lie anywhere else! I too am well acquainted with 'the rod'...how anyone thinks a brand-new little human will miraculously learn to stop crying without being soothed is ridiculous! And these moments where we are the only source of comfort to them are so finite...I try to remind myself that as often as possible.
Ah, glad this was reassuring for you. You're not alone. Three months is still so very young too. No wonder they want to be close. You are comfort and safety all in one. I remember when my son was barely a month and only wanted to sleep curled up on my chest, fitting perfectly. I thought, is this going to be forever? And then, within another month - probably one or two weeks actually – he was too big and never slept exactly like that again. They are finite indeed. It really can change quickly. Sending you good sleep vibes in the meantime X
Thank you Amy, you articulate so well how others feel. I love reading your thoughts x
Thank your for reading. Glad it resonated x
Oh my goodness - I could have written this (although probably not as eloquently). Our baby girl’s first front teeth emerged yesterday and she likes to play in the cot, but sleeping on or next to me. I hope the teething passes and someone makes you some non judgemental coffee xxx
Glad it arrived at the right time! It's so hard when they only want to sleep on you/next to you. Of course, it's also lovely too, when they submit to sleep, when you can feel the full weight of them, their little breath on you... It's hard but there's also something deeply precious about it. Here's hoping you get some decent sleep yourself though xx